Day one: Shift your mindset.
I may not like how I have learned all the lessons in my life (or some of the people who taught me them, for that matter), but I am grateful for the life education. The mindset I have is one of gratitude: for being alive, for still seeking out what is good, for being able to still feel both happiness and pain, and for knowing that others feel the same.
As a result, I will do my best to live my life as an expression of that in the best way I know how: always doing the work. It is not about wealth, notoriety, or some societal indicator of success; for me it is about the following:
- making honorable choices, as in "do what is right, not easy or convenient";
- excising the negative; and
- bringing about some measure of positive in the world, whether minute or grand.
There are days when I am frustrated and angry and I allow myself to feel that way while also looking at what it is that is causing it. If it is a useful emotion, I keep it and use it as fuel. If it is not, I get rid of it and am grateful that in my chest beats a passionate heart that fires my soul.